Finding Love

Finding true love can be a daunting task. You want to find someone with whom you can share your life, but where do you start? There is no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to finding love.

 Some methods, however, have proved more successful than others. In this blog post, I’ll discuss with you three of the most popular approaches and offer tips on how you can best utilize them.  Whether you are looking for love online, in your neighborhood, or through friends, I’ve got you covered

Online dating apps have become popular as people seek out connections. Sometimes online romance leads to a long-term, meaningful relationship. Sometimes it’s only a fling.

Online dating is a lot like gambling. Most people put their best foot forward in their online profile. Not only their foot but also their most photogenic profile pictures. Unfortunately, the smile sometimes comes in a 10-year-old photograph. Still, some of us rely on fate by putting ourselves out there for the world—or an algorithm—to match us with our future mates. 

As we get older and (hopefully) more mature, we may seek potential partners through friends and acquaintances. This, too, can bring mixed results. Your friends know you well, so you can assume they would also know people you would have a connection with. Make it known in your various friend groups that you are looking for a potential love interest, and be open to what may happen.

Or perhaps there is something you have always wanted to learn or a local group offering meetings or classes you can join. Participating in activities you enjoy will bring you in contact with people who share your interests. This may be a slower way to meet a potential mate, but sharing a common love of something is a great way to meet people you may be compatible with.  Local libraries often have very active social calendars, or do you belong to a church that offers small group meetings or other social opportunities? What are the activities that are interesting to you? Pursuing your interests is an excellent way to meet people who think similarly. 

No matter your style, it always boils down to the right combination of luck and good strategy. The best way to increase your chances of meeting the right person and creating a lasting relationship starts with being honest and taking time to reflect on what you want in a partner.

It’s fun to create a profile of your ideal person, but don’t share your findings with anyone. Put your thoughts in a notebook nobody has access to. And then go wild! Make a scrapbook with pictures, drawings, poems, and your own writing. Take notes whenever you have an idea of how your perfect person should act, be and present themselves.

Then, use that profile to search for potential partners who match your criteria. Don’t settle for less. Put yourself out there and learn to enjoy meeting new people and going on dates.

Your strategies for finding long-term relationships and true happiness may vary as time goes by. You might jump up and down when young, looking to catch Cupid’s arrow at the nearest bar or club. Or a sports activity might land you a slam dunk in the love department. Online dating might be the only way you feel comfortable or only getting matches made by friends. Only you know the right path for you to meet someone new.

Use these tips, and believe that you can find the perfect partner. That’s an essential part of finding love.