July 31st is not just another quirky holiday.
While many men respond with eye-rolls or jokes, women often feel something different. For us, this day offers an opportunity—an opening to reclaim what’s always belonged to us: our bodies, our desires, and the right to experience pleasure without guilt or shame.
The Weight We’ve Carried for Too Long
Let’s be honest. Sexualization doesn’t just happen in magazines or on screens. Most women encounter it early. It lives in the stares that last too long, the gaps in sex education, the shame passed around locker rooms, and the double standards we navigate daily.
You don’t need to be Pamela Anderson or Emily Ratajkowski to feel the pressure. Simply growing up as a girl in our culture is enough. According to a report by the APA Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls, sexual objectification increases anxiety, depression, and body shame. These patterns usually begin during adolescence and continue to echo through adulthood.
Our Desires Didn’t Vanish—They Got Quiet
Despite the years of guilt and self-denial, our desires never disappeared. Instead, they went underground. Scripts we inherited taught us that pleasure was dangerous, selfish, or unnecessary. So we pushed it down.
But the longing never left.
We crave safety.
We seek permission.
We want to feel fully alive—not to perform, but to connect with ourselves.
Healing Starts with Reconnection
Forget feather boas and bubble baths—unless they genuinely bring you joy. What I offer is deeper. Through trauma-informed, evidence-based therapy, I help women reconnect with their pleasure and power.
Using tools like clinical hypnotherapy, NLP, and EMDR, I guide clients as they shed layers of shame and reclaim their sense of self.
In Our Work, We Focus On:
- Letting go of sexual shame rooted in early conditioning
- Exploring fantasies with curiosity and compassion
- Transforming body image so that “naked” feels like coming home
- Building confidence in sexual expression—even without past orgasmic experiences
- Releasing trauma stored in the nervous system—whether big-T or little-t
This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about returning to who you were before shame stepped in.
Why Emotional Agility Matters
According to Dr. Susan David’s TED Talk, emotional agility helps us stop fighting ourselves. When we face our feelings instead of silencing them, we make choices that align with who we truly are.
Because of this, many clients begin to laugh again.
Some finally sleep through the night.
Others discover self-pleasure as sacred, not secret.
And yes, many cry. That’s part of healing, too.
Ready to Go Deeper?
If you’re looking to expand your healing journey, I recommend My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem. It explores how trauma lives in the body and how reclaiming our relationship to it can become an act of radical self-care.
Women’s pleasure—often dismissed, restricted, or ignored—can also be a revolutionary act of reclamation.
You Are Not Broken. You Are Sacred.
So this National Orgasm Day, whether you’re partnered, solo, or just beginning to reconnect:
- You are not broken.
- You are not alone.
- And your pleasure is not indulgent—it is necessary.
If you’re ready to step into this work with someone who honors your sensuality and your soul, I’d be honored to support you.
No shame. No pressure. Just freedom—in the most delicious sense of the word.
Click here to book your free clarity call — I’ll help you create a personalized blueprint to bring your fire back to life. It’s not gone. It’s just resting.