When Flirtation Doesn’t Feel Playful For some of my clients, the very idea of flirtation doesn’t feel fun—it feels threatening. They’re not prudish. They’re not cold. And they’re certainly not “too sensitive.”They’re simply carrying a nervous system that has been taught: attention to oneself equals danger. Many women I work with tell me they panic when someone flirts with them,…
What Fear‑Based Living Really Means You’ve probably heard the phrase “fear-based living” in a TED Talk, a therapist’s office, or whispered over wine and worry. But what does it actually mean? It means this: when fear becomes the default lens, life contracts. In my practice, I’ve seen clients whose fear was so persistent—so convincing—it drowned out everything else. They stayed…
By Coach Evie Sullivan — Healing Coach for the Deeply Curious Learning to work with your fear can change everything. It shows up like an uninvited guest in your body — tight in the chest, shallow in the breath, loud in the mind. It whispers worst-case scenarios… and sometimes screams them, too. It’s easy to feel powerless when fear takes…
Why Hypervigilance in LGBTQ Adults Doesn’t End with Success You built a beautiful life. You landed the job they said you couldn’t have.You found the partner you once dreamed of.You’ve created something steady and meaningful. And still—your chest tightens when you wake up.Moments of silence leave you uneasy.You overwork, overthink, and over-please—not because you want to, but because your body…
How Chill Culture and Intimacy Became Opposites Chill culture and intimacy weren’t always at odds. It began innocently enough: a couch, a blanket, a show, maybe a little wine. “Netflix and chill,” they said. But somewhere between Season 4 and the remote sliding off your thigh, something else slipped away too: desire. Welcome to the quiet epidemic no one wants…
A Silent Struggle with Emotional Eating in LGBTQ Adults Emotional eating in LGBTQ adults often begins in silence—long before a single bite is taken.It emerges in the quiet where truth was denied, identity was questioned, or safety was out of reach. For many LGBTQ+ people, the body becomes a battleground—shaped not just by overt rejection, but by years of self-suppression.…
Why Relationship Problems After Baby Are So Common Relationship problems after baby are more common than couples expect. They used to laugh at midnight.Make love in the kitchen.Dream about the life they’d build together. When they found out a baby was coming, it felt like the universe had whispered, “Yes.” But somewhere between the contractions and the colic, the dream……
Once Upon a Timeline: Why Dating Feels Broken Why dating feels broken isn’t just something we say—it’s something we feel. Once upon a time, in a forest not so far from the apps on your phone, men were hunters and women were Bambi. He pursued.She observed.He brought fire. She brought the calm that softened it. But somewhere between the swipe-left…
The Quiet Reality of LGBTQ+ Trauma LGBTQ+ trauma and healing often go unnoticed. On the surface, many individuals appear confident and accomplished. They’re the friend who always has good advice or a joke to lighten the mood. But underneath? There’s a tight knot of fear and shame that’s hard to untangle. Because hiding who you are—for years or even decades—teaches…
